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New Year's Resolutions
  The small stuff... January 2007
Dear Melissa,
Happy New Year everybody! 2007 is here and winter classes are in full swing. I am so proud of all of you who have made a commitment or re-commitment to practicing yoga, pilates and improving your nutritional intake. January is a time of new beginnings, reflection and renewal. In our culture we typically celebrate the New Year with a tradition of making New Year’s resolutions. For many, New Year’s resolutions typically involve getting in shape, losing weight, quitting smoking, and getting organized.
Looking back

2006 was a big year for me. After many years I finally completed my long-term goal of successfully defending my Ph.D. dissertation. This was a resolution I had made every year since 2002. Each year I would forward this enormous goal hoping that maybe 2003, 2004, 2005, or 2006 would be the year to complete the giant task. In December of 2006, I finally achieved my goal. One of the greatest pleasures in achieving this milestone is not having to forward it to my list of goals in 2007.

After years of looking at the big picture and long term projects I have chosen to take the lessons I have learned from studying yoga philosophy and turn inward to the present moment when setting my intentions for 2007. My goal for 2007 is to be fully present in the moment, whatever that moment may be. In always pushing for deep and profound experiences one can lose sight of the joy and divinity in the ordinary and everyday. Dr. David R. Hawkins, author of Power vs.. Force writes

"...because just being ordinary in and of itself is an expression of divinity; the truth of one's real self can be discovered through the pathway of everyday life. The commonplace and God aren't distinct. To live with care and kindness is all that is necessary; the test reveals itself in due time."

Maybe it is important in our goal-driven, achievement- oriented society to shift our focus from accomplishments to being fully present in everyday experiences. We are after all “human beings” not “human doings.” One of the most inspiring women to walk this earth, Mother Teresa, espouses great words of wisdom when she states, "We may not all do great things while on this earth but we can all do small things with great love."

 
Looking forward

 
On December 13, 2006 one of my favourite authors, Richard Carlson of the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series died of a heart attack at the age of 45 while traveling via airplane from California to make a television appearance in New York. As he passed into the light do you think his last thoughts were, “I should have written more books” or “I should have accepted more speaking engagements” or do you think they were probably more about the small stuff? “I wish I had spent more time with my wife and two daughters.” Richard Carlson’s passing reminded me that life itself is a gift.

Earlier this month I asked my husband how I might be a better wife to him. I was somewhat, although not entirely surprised by his simple response. “Show up.” Well actually it was a variation on the answer to the, “what do men want” question. The popular answer is “Show up naked. Bring beer.” My husband adapted the slogan to his preference, “Show up naked. Wear boots.” In short fulfilling a huge agenda was not on his list. Being fully present with him in the moment with him was.

So, in 2007 I publicly declare my new years resolution to small things with great love, to be fully present for the ordinary and as well as the extraordinary.

Namaste, shanti, om

Melissa West

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Dr. Melissa West.
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